This blog topic should cover "The 10 things I hate most about Lolita".
But hate is such a strong word... I really don't use that word unless it is against child rapists and such... So I made my most annoyed list instead ^^
The top 10 things I get most annoyed about with Lolita!
#1 Japanese Brand Sizes
#2 Accessories that follow the laws of gravity: OTK socks, eyelashes, wigs...
#3 Public reactions when I wear Lolita fashion
#4 Expensive Lolita clothes with crappy quality
#5 When sellers post an original picture and you receive something quite different...
#6 Those who believe that Lolitas must follow the same cookie-cut shape
#7 People who think that Lolita's are looking for fetisch sexual attention or that Lolita is anti-feminist
#8 Wearing Lolita in hot weather
#9 The lack of real leather Lolita shoes
#10 Caring for your delicate Lolita clothes
#1 Japanese Brand Sizes
OMG! Asian brand sizes are so tiiiiny... Being nearly 5'10" (176 cm) It's almost impossible for me to buy brand ...
Brand sizes makes me feel like a humongous giant!
#2 Accessories following the laws of gravity: OTK socks, eyelashes, wigs...
Oh, If things just could stay in place...
Don't fall down!!!
Not again!
#3 Public reactions when I wear Lolita
Even when public reactions are kind, I find it really awkward to always have to receive comments on my outfit from total strangers.
I really don't want that kind of attention, it just makes me feel out of place.
The first time a went out in Lolita, I received maybe 10 comments within an hour! Most of them were very sweet - for example a guy who with an admiring voice said "-Wow, straight from Japan!".
But I also received negative comments, from two older ladies who "supposedly" were talking between each others, but loud enough for me to hear, when they walked by: "-That's just disgusting!"
I also get those totally out of the place comments, like "But you're not petite, you can't be a Lolita" (middle-aged woman) and "But you don't look like a Lolita, 'cause you are not Japanese!" (Also a middle-aged woman).
Not putting all middle aged women under bad light, the first comment I received in Lolita was from a lady down the street who tilted her head, gave me an ear-to-ear smile and said with all the love from her heart: "Darling, you look so sweet!" <3
Even though I mostly receive kind comments, it is somewhat of a challenge to receive strangers attentions.
I try to think of it as a test - can I stand up for myself and for the clothes that I love? :)
#4 Expensive Lolita clothes with crappy quality
When you´re paying >150 USD for a dress and the brand doesn't even care about pattern matching or customer service, it's not fun being the customer.
Look carefully near the toes on the upper shoe in this picture...
 |
| Read about Amethyst Cithrine's horror story with Btssb 200 USD shoes that broke the first time she wore them, and she got told from customer service that her feet where too big?! (Which they weren't!) |
#5 When sellers post an original picture and you receive something quite different...
 |
| Picture on Lightinthebox on the left, actual received item to the left... |
Yup, this happened to me (you can read about it
here)
#6 Those who believe that all Lolita's must follow the same cookie-cut shape
No, we don't all have to wear brand.
No, we don't all have to look like Misako Aoki to be able to wear Lolita.
No, we don't have to follow all the substyles strictly!
Yes, we can wear beautiful clothes, and feel good about it.
Yes, we can be small, tall, plus sized, wear glasses, have short hair...
Yes, we can fuse substyles and create new ones!
#7 People who think that Lolita's are looking for fetisch sexual attention or that Lolita is anti-feminist
Some people (often men) believe that Vladimir Nabokov's novel is the base for Lolita fashion.
This is not true - the base of Lolita fashion is Victorian, Rococo and Edwardian period clothing. It's all about covering up, being cute instead of sexy and modest.
Lolita's do not dress up for men or anyone else but themselves.
Some people (often women) believe that cute, girly, pink and frilly are signs of anti-feminism. That to be a true women's right activist, you have to wear no make-up, cut your hair short and behave like the stereotypical male.
This is not true. Women rights is about the right to be whoever you want to be, as a women. Be it to play butch or dress up in doll clothes - the point is LIBERATION from given norms and social critique.
#8 Wearing Lolita in hot weather
Ieuw, the stench of sweat on an otherwise immaculate polyester blouse...
It is tough surviving in Lolita in hot weather - I actually rather not wear Lolita when it's hot outside :)
Since Sweden usually only has a heat wave 2 weeks a year - this really isn't a problem :) But I truly do admire all Lolitas in tropical countries!
 |
| Saphy lives in Malaysia! (31-33C when she took this picture!) |
#9 The lack of real leather Lolita shoes
If you want durable shoes that breathe and are comfortable for years to come, that signal high quality and has a beautiful finish, you search for...
...PU shoes?! _PLASTIC?!_
Seriously, why doesn't even good Lolita brands put an effort in making comfortable, real leather, Lolita shoes?
I made a post about it,
you can read it here.
#10 Caring for your delicate Lolita clothes
When your clothes don't tolerate water, what do you do when it rains? Or if you get a stain?
Lolita's are very careful with their clothes. Before I even had bought my first Lolita outfit, my lovely friend Ida went through all the cautious steps I must take if I want to wear my beautiful outfits more than once:
1) Never wear Lolita directly to your skin. Always wear underwear, Ida recommended to sew a simple underdress (with short sleeves) in Egyptian cotton to wear closest to your body.
2) Always shower before wearing Lolita and use an aluminium deodorant to stop perspiration before it soils your clothes!
3) Buy a small towel or table cloth that you always bring with you, if you have to sit down.
4) Get a big picnic mat if you are going to sit down in grass.
5) Sew a double (back and front) apron to your dress.
That was all! Hope you enjoyed this post :)
Please come back tomorrow and read the next blog post in the
30 day Challenge!
.jpg)
.jpg)
.jpg)
